Self-Confidence can vaguely be described as the ability of a person to have faith in his or her abilities and competence. Possessing self-confidence can give you the wings to flutter and develops a high level of passion, hope and empathy in the individual. It gives you the belief that you can confront the world and pave a path for yourself that will lead you to your dreams and aspirations. This describes exactly why building self-confidence is vital to you and how essential self-confidence is to your personality. Courage and Self Confidence go hand in hand. Courage, in the present context, refers to the capacity of being able to follow your heart despite the opposition or difficulties involved. Fear is the principal adversary of self-confidence and fulfilment. With courage, you overcome all your limitations and fears to follow your achieved targets. This inevitably increases the possibility of your success. Self Confidence and Courage give you the power to write your own destiny.
In order to develop this sense of self confidence be optimistic and positive. Besides this, environment that you reside in and the people you interact with the most must also be positive. No matter how positive you may be, if you are surrounded by pessimistic people, you will constantly be surrounded by negative thoughts, which negatively influences your mind and soul. Therefore, you must remain in the company of idealistic and optimistic people. While an idealist close his or her eyes to the bad things in the world, the pessimist does exactly the opposite. He closes his or her eyes to all the good things in the world. It is beneficial to be aware about the potential dangers you may face, but these thoughts must not be so strong that they overpower your willingness to overcome these difficulties.
Make Your Move – Be Confident
The most significant phase of this process of building self confidence is to plan and take action on the same. Wondering and pondering on an issue will only make you feel inferior. This section provides you ways to make the whole process of taking action, smooth.
The first of the three suggested ways is to ‘Think Less and Do More’. This will bail you out of over-intuition, and you can simply go and do whatever you like. This is one of the best methodologies that I have considered so far for initiating more movement, in light of the fact that it puts you in a state of enthusiasm, and you actually look forward to the task you wish to do without worrying about the supposed wrong things that may happen to you in the process. Besides this, it allows you to be spontaneous and comfortable. If you fall in the category of people who like to think before acting on any issue, you can consider taking a couple of deep breaths before you take the plunge.
Secondly, you must lighten up a bit. Most people have a self imposed restriction on them which makes them feel that prevents them from taking an initiative quickly and at once. They believe that it is a whopping, troublesome and startling decision. In this process of confidence building, you might face some negative situation. However, it is crucial to comprehend that it is a process of development, and there will be as many negatives as there are positives. You have to focus on your destination and not on the path that leads you there. In order to maintain your, it is essential to unwind and relax. This will lighten you up and help you in dealing with the situation in a better and effective way. With a lighter state of psyche, your errands appears lighter and you can swiftly and energetically towards your goals. Initiation isn’t something you can do per force and is a particularly instinctive thing.
The key to building self confidence is to do things that you fear the most. When you fear something, you, in actuality, have a mental block that you might not be able to do that thing in the desired manner. Therefore, fear is nothing but an escape act. There is nothing in this world that cannot be achieved and no fear that cannot be conquered. A push or a start is all that you need to conquer your fears. The most dreadful fear that most of us have is the fear of failing. All other fears and phobias stem from this. Success and failure are two sides of the same coin, and if you have a wish to taste success; you must also have the heart to fail. It is only after you fail that you realize the real meaning of success.
The result is not relevant, what is decisive is the fact that you must try doing everything. If you don’t try, you would never know the result. If you fail the first time, try again, and if you fail the subsequent times, be stubborn enough to say “I cannot lose at this!” Keep trying until you succeed. Success is a real high point, and it is this moment of success that gives you a reassurance that you can survive everything in life and irrespective of the situation, you will always sail through. Overcoming your fears makes you stronger, firmer and confident.
Arrange and Plan
Just like self confidence is the key to success, readiness is the key to fearlessness. Whenever you know nothing of what you are going to do, it is natural to be apprehensive about the situation. Apprehensiveness leads to both positive and negative thoughts that stem from your initial feelings about the situation. Consider, for example, a situation where you are just minutes away from a serious business presentation. You are likely to get anxious and nervous about the situation. An array of positive and negative thoughts will cross your mind. You may have positive thoughts like “I know my facts right. There is certainly nothing that can go wrong!” Or “I know I’m a good presenter. A presentation is the last thing that can go bad with me.” On the other hand, you may also have negative thoughts like “What if I fumble in the first line of my presentation script?” Or “What if I’m not able to answer any of the questions asked by my colleagues.” It is perfectly normal to be worried or nervous. However, too much of nervousness has the power to ruin any situation.
Learn to Master Failure
Certainty cannot be promised from consistently being right. However, it does stem from not fearing to be wrong. The crux of the matter is that you need to face your situation, good or bad, favorable or unfavorable. You have to understand that nobody will hang you for taking one wrong decision or failing once in a while. We are all humans and making mistakes is a part of growing up. Every wrong decision you take will give you something that not a million successes are capable of giving you. Experience is the priceless possession that comes with failure. Moreover, failure is not as awful as it may seem. It may take the glory of success away from you, but it does give you some things to hold onto forever.
Self Confidence enlightens Your Life
Instead of viewing failure as something loathsome you can view it as a learning. Whenever standing amidst a situation of failure, it is time for some serious introspection. You must always ask yourself questions like:
What could have turned the outcome in my favor?
What is it that went against me?
To summarize the whole process, you simply have to analyze the situation from all perspectives and derive learning out of the same.
Self Confidence makes you Tough
Anything that will not kill you will certainly make you a better person. Every time you fail to do a thing correctly, you get a point to add in ‘What not to do?’ list. Moreover, every time you fail and try again, you give yourself a reassurance that failing is not the end of everything, and you can have hope. Miracles happen to people who keep their hopes alive, even if it is hoping against hope. This leads you to a phase of desensitization. You will begin to realize that now failure does not affect you as much as it did earlier. It is worth mentioning here that no matter how much we focus on the fact that failure must not affect you, we don’t mean to state that failure must not affect you at all. Excess of everything is not good for your personality. It must affect you but not to the degree that it instigates a complete breakdown of your hopes and dreams upon occurrence.
Self Awareness and Self Assurance
Exploring your hidden talents and competency is an indispensable facet of building self confidence and courage. Challenge yourself, face your fears and do things that are most dreadful to you. You will see a new face of your personality in the process. If you have some apparent fears, confront yourself on reasons for those fears and tell yourself that it isn’t that huge of a bargain. You will develop to become stronger and better. When you understand yourself better in terms of your skill set and what precisely you expect from your life, you will have more conviction in yourself and what you can do. Confusion leads to confrontation, and when you, yourself, are unsure about your abilities and goals, you will not be able to channelize your energies towards a common goal. Therefore, self awareness is central to self assurance.
Self Confidence and having a focused approach in life can do wonders to your ability of handling any situation. It can have a gigantic effect in your self-confidence levels depending on how comfortably you move along in your way to effective self management. Therefore, you must plan to become more agreeable and certain.